Does understanding emerge from love or does love emerge from understanding? Let us close our eyes and think. Think of a you that lack compassion. Selfish, living only with their own truths, barred from compromise, hotheaded. Do you think it will be possible to see, feel and experience the love that resides there? Now imagine a compassionate you. Imagine yourself with full of tolerance, understanding of the shortcomings of others, knowing that everyone is different, all with their individual natures and predispositions. Can you see the love there? Absolutely! Judging and not wanting to be like someone else births a new you. This is how you determine what you will live through in the future. Without realizing, you end up being the person you hate without knowing. You become that lack a self love. In order to love and to carry you forward, compassion is essential. This will first give you self love and that in turn will give you love for another. Love will always keep you in the light of a higher consciousness and provide you a chance to catch your own impulsive reactions. When you lose the love you end up being nothing but an ego and this is the blindness of the first step towards self loss. Your ego will whisper, how can he does that to me, how can he speak to me like that, I have never known him at all... The truth is, you have not only known him but known his soul. Your ego can never know someone’s soul. How can you expect it to remain calm and show compassion? What you need to do is to only stay aware and listen to your ego, your soul and your body without tuning out one of them because all of them have their own language. What you need is not going to come from another person but through the harmony of the three. Because of this, if you want to know yourself, then look at your reaction to someone else's behavior. The compassion that you will show will not be for him but for your own self actualization.